Remembering, 20 years gone


Lawrence O. Frye

September 11, 1934 – July 4, 1994


Lawrence O. Frye, 1937

Lawrence O. Frye, 1937



















from my father’s poem, “Raindrops”

All this performed inland, in the heartland,
in a garden still dry, untended here and there,
where the brambles have touched a passing hand,
extended toward a blossom white withholding
future fruit, a berry tart but staining
fingers with remembrance dark.

           – Lawrence O. Frye (3 June 1994)

Lawrence O. Frye, 9/11/34 - 7/4/94

Lawrence O. Frye         9/11/34 – 7/4/94


Caught Between Familiarity and the Unknown

circa 1999, Kara Frye Krauze

But there are no shoulds, not here, not anymore, there is no might-have-been, there is just this stunning range of possibilities missed, ambiguities intact, and a man marching forward, trying here and there to turn back, unsuccessful. Instead, he became trapped by his own desires and despair, depression commingling with circumstance, emotions and events beyond his grasp, so that he seemed insistently to urge forth his own demise, all the while wishing for it to be otherwise, as well it might have been.

This was not fate, not destiny; it was a series of errors, multiple sorrows, a bio-chemical cocktail; a travesty, a tragedy, not a life’s design.

Zichrono Livracha. May his memory be a blessing.


About Kara Krauze Kara Krauze is a writer, consultant, and educator. Kara has worked in publishing, financial services, the mental health field, and community organizing. Her essays have been published in Quarterly West, Center: A Journal of the Literary Arts, Highbrow Magazine, the Los Angeles Review of Books, and elsewhere. She has a B.A. from Vassar College in International Studies and a M.A. in Literary Cultures from New York University. She has participated in workshops in New York City, Prague, and France, studied in Moscow and lived in London. Her writing, including a memoir and novels, engages with the subjects of war, loss, and memory. She grew up in Ohio and currently lives in New York City. Kara founded Voices From War, offering writing workshops for veterans, in 2013.
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